February 26, 2020-We’ve all done it at one time or another, and for some reason, whenever we do it, no matter how many good things are said, we tend to focus on the bad. I’m here to tell you to STOP! Stop Googling yourself. It can be tempting to find out what people think of us and our work, but trust me when I say that no good can come of it. Sure, you may have stellar reviews, lots of likes, and beautiful things said about you, but I think Dita Von Teese said it best, “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.” People are going to love your book and others will hate it. People will like you and others won’t. It’s all irrelevant at the end of the day, so don’t lend any weight to it.
There seems to be an epidemic of bullying, suicides, and overall meanness on social media. The more connected we become, the more disconnected we really are from each other. Most things that people say from behind the protection of a screen and keyboard would never be told in person. We should follow the general rule that if you wouldn’t say it to someone’s face, don’t say it to them online. This should be used in conjunction with, if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it. Not everyone needs your opinion. And you certainly don’t need the opinions of others to justify your worth. You are worthy. PERIOD.
Keep writing, ignore the critics, take positive, constructive feedback to make your work better, and enjoy creating art. Do it for yourself, because no one else’s opinion matters.